Infidelity does not have to be the ultimate betrayal argues Relationship Therapist, Esther Perel.
"Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so, too, the taboo against it. In fact, infidelity has a tenacity that marriage can only envy, so much so, that this is the only commandment that is repeated twice in the Bible: once for doing it, and once just for thinking about it."
For anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, how does your marriage heal from an affair?
"Desire runs deep. Betrayal runs deep. But it can be healed."
Perel argues that for some, the betrayal is a final blow for relationships that were already dying. But for others, it's a possibility of something new.
"The fact is, the majority of couples who have experienced affairs stay together."
"Some of them will merely survive, and others will actually be able to turn a crisis into an opportunity"
"A lot of couples, in the immediate aftermath of an affair, because of this new disorder that may actually lead to a new order, will have depths of conversations with honesty and openness that they haven't had in decades."
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